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5 Ways Aries Remains Forever Young

Sunday, March 31st, 2013

It’s springtime again, and to celebrate, I’ll share with you how spring babies, the Aries types among us, remain forever young.  As the first sign in the zodiac, Aries (March 20-April 19) represents birth and newness.  The Aries temperament is a great example of how to cultivate freshness and the ability to begin again, no matter what the circumstances.  Here’s how Aries does it:

1. Be athletic.  If you’re an Aries, you need to move your body–plain and simple.  You may have been sporty in grade school and high school years, but in adult years it’s all too easy to channel that fiery drive into projects until you suddenly wake up to discover you actually have (gasp!) fat!  For an Aries, this is unthinkable.  In every Aries’ mind, he is a bead of pure energy moving through space:  unstoppable, inexorable and completely devoid of baggage.  When he’s not moving his body, he loses touch with his own sense of himself.  To regain it, he needs to “get physical” on a regular basis (yes, sex counts as exercise!).

2. Push for what you want.  Aries is nothing if not pushy.  This is not a bad trait—it’s very useful, especially in a world based very much on competition.  Aries in a woman’s chart represents her inner Warrior Woman.  This part of a woman is reviled and like Mary Wollstonecraft (who had a strong Aries influence), the Aries female might well be called “a hyena in petticoats.”  But if you’re not willing to push for what you want in this world, how will you get it?  For Aries, pushing means hoping, and without hope, all is lost.

3. Live in the now.  For Aries, it’s natural to forget about the past as soon as it’s over.  Letting go of the past is as easy as letting your attention be grabbed by the next shiny thing.  Naturally, this can come back to haunt Aries when they think they have moved on but find that the past unexpectedly rears its head.  But to really be in the present, fully and completely, simply acting from your transparent truth is what Aries does best—making life immediate and vital.

4. Keep moving.  Aries never gets stuck for long—which is a feat, considering that Aries comes with a built-in challenge-seeking missile.  Aries perpetually seeks obstacles so that they may be overcome.  No other sign is as hard-headed, driven and impatient as Aries.  If there’s anything Aries can’t stand, it’s waiting for things.  Those of this sign type need to keep moving much as a shark does—without motion, stagnation sets in and death soon follows.

5. Relish life’s challenges.  “Battle frenzy” is what they call the altered state you get into in the midst of a fight.  It is a state of high arousal where you are loaded with adrenaline and endorphins.  You have a lot of energy and you feel no pain.  Now I’m not saying you should consume masses of caffeine and painkillers, but I am saying that when life throws you challenges, you can enjoy the alertness that the situation draws from you.  Years ago, I recall a friend describing the amazing feeling she got in her women’s self-defense class:  “I almost want to meet an attacker in a dark alley,” she confessed, “If I could fight for my life and win just once, then I wouldn’t have to be eaten up by anger anymore.”

You don’t have to be an Aries to try on these attitudes.  Every human being alive has at least a little Aries in them.  Cultivate yours and stay young!

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Is Fire Burning You Up?

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

Solutions For Fire-Gone-Wrong

In my recent post Personality Flaws of the Four Elements I described ways the 4 Elements can go wrong, each according to its own nature.

How To Know If Fire Is Burning You Up
When all you’ve got is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.  Fire is at best a blunt instrument and when abused it becomes destructive quickly.  Your Fire has gone wrong when:

  • You frequently feel angry, destructive, or aggressive.
  • You always need to have the last word.
  • Your friends say  you habitually squash other people’s self-confidence by dominating them.
  • Some say your ways of being make you feel big and others feel small.
  • You feel restless and can’t settle down into a job or relationship.

Solution One:  Balance Fire With The Other 3 Elements
If your Fire is distorted, the other elements can help restore balance. Some say that anger is a disguise for grief, and for a Fiery individual this can be very true.  Are you masking sadness with your Fiery display?  Take off the armor, sink into your Watery side and let yourself feel sad.  But leave the battle zone first.

Air can also lend a useful perspective.  Draw on your Airy side to access your inner Observer, that part of you that can get healthy distance from yourself.  Step outside your anger and use logic instead.  Debate with yourself before arguing with others.

Earth reminds Fire that dominating others is impractical, because it impedes the very leadership you’re trying to create.  Why would people want to follow someone who blows up easily and loses self-control?  Earth says, have self-discipline and show them that you take practical action on your promises.

Solution Two:  Emphasize Healthy Fire
If you emphasize healthy Fire and fill your life with positive expressions of Fire, there will be no room for unhealthy Fire.  This elegant solution gently allows negative Fire traits to fall away as a side-effect of your emphasis on positive Fire.  You might call this solution “Fire-Fu.”  Here are some examples:

  • Have a regular athletic routine that allows you to “blow off steam.”  Then you don’t explode unexpectedly.
  • Encourage mental self-talk that builds your confidence, instead of undermining it.  Then you don’t need to dominate others to get your way or express your needs.
  • Enjoy healthy competition with strong people you respect.  Then you’ll find the patience you need to get you through the times when you have to tread delicately with people you wouldn’t choose, but have to relate with.
  • Assert yourself early and often, so you don’t build up a head of steam and blow.
  • Examine the beliefs that make up your philosophy of life—create a world-view that expands (not contracts) you.

The Four Elements are a fascinating part of human temperament.
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Coming in a few days:  Has Earth Grounded You–Permanently?


5 Reasons Why Aries Gets More Done Than Anybody

Friday, April 9th, 2010

In celebration of the birthdays of all the Aries Rams out there, I’ve come up with 5 reasons for their astonishing efficiency.

Aries is action-oriented. Your friendly neighborhood Aries understands the secret behind true effectiveness:  “Just Do It.”  Nike wasn’t the originator of this idea—every Aries type since the Stone Age has had the urge to act immediately on a good thought.  Keeping Aries from acting—now that’s an entirely different issue.  Sometimes impulse control is a concern!  But the Aries ability to take action and to act now, without waiting for undue consideration, means that Aries has access to spectacular timing and often shows up first in line.

Aries is the rugged individualist. Aries is willing to do it herself and often feels nobody else would do it fast enough, soon enough or efficiently enough (a trait they share with Capricorns & Virgos).  It’s just plain easier to simply do the thing and get it done, and the mere idea of showing someone else how to do the job and then standing aside while they do it (most likely badly) frustrates Aries to tears.  The Aries tendency to believe that no one else could do the job better or faster than he can is sometimes off-putting, but who can argue with results?  On the other hand, here’s a hint to the Aries types out there: if you want to grow a business, you must learn to delegate.  Nuff said.

Aries has drive. Mars types have abundant energy—more than they need.  They must use it up somehow.  Regular exercise is the key to keeping the Aries person in balance both in body and mood.  Aries men and women must find ways to burn off that excess drive, otherwise irritation and anger can dog this upbeat, driven person, creating contentious social circumstances that make it hard to progress in love or career.  “When all you have is a hammer,” etc. etc., but who wants to volunteer for the position of nail?   Oh, and another whisper to you Aries types:  don’t live in a constant state of excitation (however good that might feel), or you’ll burn out your adrenals.

Aries can start over. There’s nothing like the hope that dwells in the Aries soul—it’s made of iron.  This sign gifts its natives with the ability to begin again after even the most crushing blows life can deal out—and to begin again with a freshness and innocence that makes the Aries type seem almost untouched by the past.  Scorpio hates this Aries trait, because Scorpio holds onto resentment longer than anybody, but Scorp also has to admit that the resulting freshness seems to keep Aries types young in body and soul.

Aries cuts away the dross. Garbage, waste, loose ends—these all have no place in the Aries existence.  How can such vestigial trappings even stick to someone who is moving so fast?  Aries is unattached to and easily lets go of anything in the way of forward movement.  The Aries type streamlines every space simply by barreling through it.  You want to get the job done?  Hire an Aries.  You want a fresh start?  Live with an Aries.  You want love to be reborn every spring?  Marry an Aries.

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I Need (To Be) A Hero!

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

Everybody wants to be a hero somewhere in her life, but what area of life she wants to be heroic in differs from person to person.  Where do you want to be a hero?  To answer this question, you can look at the location of Mars in your birth chart.

The house your Mars is in represents an area where there is irritation, stress, strife and discord, as you learn (over the course of your lifetime) to go after what you want with appropriate force—not too much, nor too little.  You may have a tendency to see that area of life as a battleground.  It’s a great area for you to “fight the good fight” and be heroic.  Some of this stress may be self-created by you habitually approaching this area as if a battle is needed, when perhaps it is not.  Shifting your approach from that of a warrior to a hero can be the key to enjoying the stress as a worthy challenge and not being oppressed by it.

If you want to find out what house your Mars is in, you can order your own personal Astrology Chart Decoder.  This is a special tool I’ve invented that puts your chart’s details in English, instead of astrology symbols.  Your Decoder tells you where every planet in your chart is located:  the sign it’s in, the house it’s in and the exact degree it occupies.  When you’ve got your Decoder in front of you, you can easily see what house your Mars is in.

Where Do You Need To Be A Hero?
The First House is the domain of identity.  If your Mars is in the First House, you identify as a Warrior or as a Hero.  Your sense of yourself as a person, an individual, blossoms when you act decisively, heroically.  When you take actions out of impulse or anger and negative results happen, you tend to take it personally.  You just want to do the right thing and it hurts when you find your best efforts have missed the mark.  Let your life shape you towards right action.

If your Mars is in your Second House, you are a Hero of Protection.  Guarding and putting energy into the people and things you hold as your own is paramount.  You can become quite fierce when your security (or the security of someone you love) is threatened.  Ownership is the key to energy—when you feel listless and unmotivated, take an attitude of possession and ownership towards the thing you want to be motivated by, and your energy will rise.

If your Mars is in the Third House, you are a Hero of Words.  The pen may be mightier than the sword, but for you sometimes they are one and the same.  Words can be weapons, so watch to ensure you do not hurt people unintentionally with your sharp language.  You’ll learn, over the course of your lifetime, to curb your tongue and slow down your communication so that others can hear you—and so you can hear them too.  Pursue your avid curiosity, because learning gives you energy.

In the Fourth House, Mars bestows combativeness and challenges at home.  Mars is not very comfortable in the fourth house and can make it hard to feel settled and relaxed at home.  But Mars as Heroic Mama Bear can be quite fierce when it comes to defending your home, family and country.  Pour that drive and fierceness into real estate and you can do quite well providing yourself and others with housing.  Buy a fixer-upper to use up all your energy and make it exactly as you want it, for the pride and love of it.

In the Fifth House, you are a Creative Hero.  Your drive to bring the fruits of your creativity into the world are strong and you thrive on the attention it gets you, whether directly or vicariously.  Throw yourself into self-expression and beware of frittering away your energy on fun and entertainment, rather than channeling it into the creative directions that give you energy back.  Especially beware of gambling—it can be a powerful high in the moment, but its long-term effects can ultimately drain you.

When your Mars is in the Sixth House, you are a Hero of the Workplace.  You respond well to missions put to you by a strong, able boss and you can act independently at work.  Your boss needs to be someone you can respect, or you will strike out on your own, with varying results.  Your tendency to be fast and efficient makes you easily irritated with the slowness or obstructions of your workmates.  Take the time to make your work area organized so you can work in a streamlined way—that will give you drive.

In the Seventh House, Mars can make relationship a battleground.  You may be attracted to partner up (in both romance and business) with ultra-strong people so you can push on them and find your limits.  On the other hand, your frankness and honesty are appealing and in relationship, your Heroic Lover can be quite unabashed in pursuit of the partner you fix your sights on.  This I-Yam-What-I-Yam attitude is attractive to the right person and quickly sorts the receptive targets from the uninterested ones.

People who have Mars in the Eighth House tend to be strongly sexed and enjoy the pursuit and conquering games that are part of sexuality.  As a Sexual Hero, you may have a tendency to press others into further intimacy than they are ready for because of your impatience to get to the merging and connecting you desire.  Curb your tendency toward being a boundary-crosser and slow down your approaches and your “game” may improve.  Beware also of double-standards—no self-respecting partner will tolerate them.

In the Ninth House, you are an Adventure Hero.  Get out there and travel because your need to see the world and throw yourself into it is great.  Travel gives you juice, whether it’s external or internal, so pursue personal growth and ongoing education because your desire for self-improvement is strong.  You can ride on the energy of this by deliberately taking the attitude that “This is an adventure!!” towards anything you want to accomplish.

If your Mars is in the Tenth House, you have an ambitious streak.  You’re a Corporate Hero and the sky’s the limit as to how far you might advance.  Beware of alienating the higher-ups by your sometimes combative attitude—respectful soldiers get promoted but disrespectful ones get discharged.  Your energy and drive can’t fail to be noticed, but it’s up to you to make sure it’s noticed as a good thing.  A little generosity and thoughtfulness towards those above and below you will grease the tracks greatly.

With Mars in the Eleventh House, you’re a Hero With A Cause.  Driven by your ideals, you love to be the flag-bearer for your like-minded group.  You don’t mind taking one for the team and learning to play well with others is a valuable life-skill for you.  Watch that you don’t push your ideas onto others with too much force because you can be zealous about the ideas you believe in.  Develop your principles, because they are the source of your drive.  You are attracted to strong friends and enjoy leadership among them.

Your capacity to assert yourself may seem buried if you have Mars in the Twelfth House.  Most likely, when you were growing up, you felt that it wasn’t ok to assert yourself, be strong or hold strong boundaries in the home you grew up in.  You became sensitive about it and learned to hold your anger in until it sometimes exploded.  You were born to discover what it means to be a hero and how to properly express your force of personality on your path to becoming a Heroic Spiritual Master.

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Aries: The Way of the Warrior

Tuesday, April 7th, 2009

Most cultures around the world have a warrior tradition.  The way of the warrior is seen as a respected path to glory, honor and self-discipline.  In astrology, the sign Aries exemplifies the archetype of Warrior and has much to teach us about his ways.

Act Decisively
When you act, make your action a clear one.  Don’t pussyfoot around.  Don’t muddy the waters with unclear actions, unfinished motions.  When you act, follow through immediately—it gives your actions force and power.  To take an action is to create momentum.  Let the momentum unroll its force and the action is supported.  To make one action and pretend another is to undermine one’s own force of personality and would never be done by a Warrior.

Draw The Line, Then Hold To It
Aries excels at boundaries.  The Warrior cares about territory and will respond with anger and affront when lines are crossed.  You can count on the Aries part of you to know where the lines are.  The Warrior will hold others responsible for crossing his line and will have respect for the lines of others—if they are held strongly.  A Warrior always knows another Warrior and knows when the enemy is weak.  Aries is naturally combative and may sometimes enjoy pushing the boundaries of others, simply to test them.

Be True
If you give your word, the Warrior would have you stand by it.  If you commit to a course of action, then damnit, follow through!  This is difficult for Aries, which tends to act in short bursts of energy and actually has a hard time sustaining beyond the initial burst.  But inside the Aries heart, there is pressure to hold to the principle of a thing once you’ve begun it.  It is the Warrior’s way to learn to channel aggression into guided action.

Be Honest
Aries loves honesty and directness, for two reasons.  One is that it is natural to Aries to be transparent and having to pretend is a lot of work.  The other is that because the Aries heart is not naturally duplicitous it doesn’t expect others to be that way either.  Aries has a naïve streak and feels affronted and surprised when deceived by others—even when it happens over and over again.

Cultivate Your Honor
The life of a warrior can be a lonely one.  As a Warrior, your relationship with yourself is the most intimate one you are likely to experience and being able to look at yourself in the mirror with dignity is crucial.  Knowing that you lived according to your principles matters greatly and is the source of self-esteem.  A code of honor is a covenant with yourself—when you promise to live by a code and then break that promise, what is broken is your connection with yourself and the ability to stand up proudly as an individual.  To break such a code is to de-individuate.  “Cultivate your honor,” says the Warrior, “because at the end of the day, it’s all you have.”

A Caution For Overzealous Warriors
The downfall of the Warrior is that he needs a war.  When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.  It is the nature of Aries to be attracted to strife and conflict, perhaps even to create conflict where there is none.  Don’t let your Warrior nature make life harder than it has to be.

The Gift of Force
This simple-natured sign represents your forceful side, your ability to know what you want and to pursue it.  Force has a bad rap these days, but force is what you need to hold your own integrity and be an individual apart from other individuals.  When others push on you, you have to be able to push back.  The key here is “to be able to” push back.  When you can trust that you’ll be able to defend yourself if needed, you can let go of the need to force your will on others.  Individuals with true strength and self-esteem do not have to be fierce in order to establish selfhood and pursue desires.  To satisfy the Aries part of yourself is to become the best, most ethical Warrior you can, and thus to increase effectiveness, self-esteem and honor.

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Aries is Here!

Thursday, April 2nd, 2009

“I ought to go upright and vital, and speak the rude truth in all ways.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson

Aries is the first sign of the zodiac and kicks off the solar year with a burst of energy in spring. The first day of Aries is the day of the equinox, when days and nights are of equal length. There is a sense of rebirth after the cold, dark winter. The lands have gone fallow and are waking up again from their sleep. The animals (including human animals) wake up too. From here the light increases, and there is a feeling of warmth and expansion, as the days grow longer into summer. Living things respond with mating and . . .

For the rest of this post, which is a repost, see Aries:  Sign of Spring and Renewal.

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Aries: Sign of Spring and Renewal

Saturday, April 7th, 2007

“I ought to go upright and vital, and speak the rude truth in all ways.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson

Aries is the first sign of the zodiac and kicks off the solar year with a burst of energy in spring. The first day of Aries is the day of the equinox, when days and nights are of equal length. There is a sense of rebirth after the cold, dark winter. The lands have gone fallow and are waking up again from their sleep. The animals (including human animals) wake up too. From here the light increases, and there is a feeling of warmth and expansion, as the days grow longer into summer. Living things respond with mating and energy is high. Baby mammals are born, stretch their legs and bravely begin to explore the world.

Have you noticed how your energy rises in springtime? Have you noticed that no matter how depressed you feel in winter, spring wakes you up and gets your blood moving? Do you suddenly feel a little crazy, prone to falling in love and other rash behavior? Do you notice that your body just wants to move? That’s you responding to the natural cycle of the year, to the force of Aries, which will not be ignored, and which runs in your veins like fire.

This sign is the very essence of beginnings and fills you with drive and force. Now is the time to begin things. Those things will be tested soon enough by life, but for now, the initial burst is needed and life is calling it out of you. Aries contains the force necessary to overcome inertia, to begin something from nothing. What have you been wanting to do, start or create? Aries is ready for the risk, excited by it, thrilled by it. Aries makes you feel fully alive. This energy comes only once a year and will only be here for a month—grasp it now and move! Take the leap. Risk and courage are the stuff Aries is made of. They are available in spring, in abundance.

Imagine the qualities of early spring captured in a human personality. That is what it is to be an Aries type. Ask yourself: what would that be like? What traits would it show? What would it look like to other people? What would it feel like to the Aries individual to be that?

To embody spring is to embody birth and newness. The Aries individual will always have a streak of the ingénue about them, no matter how old they get. Aries is hope; Aries is open to trying; Aries does not give up or acknowledge defeat. There is no sign more capable of starting over than Aries. This sign symbolizes birth, not from the mother’s point of view, but from the infant’s. Birth is an awe-inspiring adventure and it’s one of those life-passages that, if humans knew what they were really getting into, would make us run screaming from the room (as we do from death). Aries, fortunately, is innocent of all knowledge of what it is getting into and therefore tosses itself headlong into the unknown. Aries represents our very capacity to do that. This ability is inherent in all of us, because we all contain at least a smidgen of Aries, no matter how small. Any human being can reach for such courage, even if they have only a bit of Aries in their chart.

To be the first sign of the year conveys a certain preoccupation with. . . being first. If you are driving along the freeway and you have red Aries blood pumping through your veins, you cannot tolerate having anyone in front of you. Despite the fact that it’s not a race, that there’s no shared goal, and that you are not in competition with the other drivers around you, still you must be first. You feel compelled to pass others, to exceed the speed limit and to be driving faster than anyone near you. Of course, when you get stopped by a police officer, you are affronted because you were just expressing your true nature.

Being newborn, Aries is guileless. If you are Aries and you have learned guile, rest assured it’s not the Aries part that learned it. If you’re a strong Aries type, you’d rather speak the truth at all times, simply because it’s easier. You don’t want to have to pretend, gloss over or white-lie. You prefer to be yourself all the time and let the chips fall where they may. This is generally harder for Aries women than men, because there is so much social conditioning for women to be nice. Aries doesn’t want to bother with nice—there’s too much to do that’s truly interesting to bother with niceness. Niceness only slows you down.

The spring is a time of intense sexual heat. Hormones are on the rise. Aries is sexual; there is no doubt about it. The mating instinct is captured in this sign. Aries women often become impatient and pounce on potential partners without waiting for them to initiate. Aries men radiate testosterone and are prone to boastfulness, leaving you in no doubt of their bedroom prowess. Lions are not the only creatures that roar!

It takes tremendous force to be born, to propel oneself into the world. The “birth” quality of spring is a form of fierceness. Aries is very active, driven, directed and forceful. Aries is like fire-in-motion: a rocket, a bullet, a speeding train. Aries is pure momentum, however it works in short bursts and is not strong on continuity. Thus Aries is full of bluster but does not always follow through (that’s what Taurus, coming close behind Aries, is for). This sign is consummately about courage, faith and action. When Anais Nin wrote: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom,” she was talking about spring and renewal. She was talking about Aries.

What is there in you that requires courage? What would you start today, if you believed in yourself? What would you do if you could not be stopped? Draw on your Aries courage and take the first step now.

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