Archive for November, 2008

Scorpio Rising, Boundaries and Intimacy

Friday, November 21st, 2008

To have Scorpio rising (i.e. on the Ascendant) in one’s birth chart is an essential dilemma.  Why is that?

The Rising Sign, or Ascendant, represents how you present yourself to the world. If you were a house, your Ascendant would be the front door.  It’s like skin, because it is at once superficial (describing only a surface layer of your personality) yet crucial, (holding you together).  Because the Ascendant is your interface with the world, it shows not only how you let others in, but also how you shut them out, i.e. how you hold your boundaries and defend your perimeter.  It shows how you maintain a sense of self in a world that is constantly presenting you with foreign influences.

Scorpio is a water sign, and as a water sign, it poses certain challenges when it appears as the Ascendant in an individual’s chart.  Water signs do not by nature have very good boundaries.  Water flows into and around things, water connects but does not defend strongly.  Water is sensitive and feels powerfully, thus is prone to being taken advantage of—and taking advantage too.

If you have Scorpio rising, there’s something you should know which you won’t find in astrology books (at least, I’ve never seen it in one), but which I’ve discovered in my twenty-eight years of involvement with astrology, and it is this:  Scorpio is not really the tough-as-nails, James-Bond-like, crusty and pushy sign it’s said to be.  No.  Scorpio is sensitive, tender and feeling.  In fact, I’d go so far as to say that Scorpio is the most tender and vulnerable sign in the entire zodiac (yes, moreso than Cancer).  But if this is so, why don’t the astrology books say that?  Because they write about Scorpio as experienced from the outside, by people encountering Scorpio in others.  I’m talking about Scorpio as experienced from the inside; I’m talking about what it feels like to be Scorpio.

How do you think Scorpios became so tough and crusty and cynical to begin with?  Because once they were little baby Scorpios and they quickly discovered that the world was too much for them.  They felt everything so intensely and were so passionately drawn into life and love and pleasure and pain that they had to build walls in order to become a person at all instead of a bundle of passions, tossed like a tiny boat at sea.

Every adult Scorpio should take a moment to congratulate himself for building those walls, for creating those boundaries, for becoming a person.  Then, he needs to begin the work of dismantling them.  Why?  Because creating boundaries is only the beginning of the life-work of Scorpio, and because the Scorpionic crusty exterior repels the very thing Scorpio longs for the most.  Scorpio’s fondest dream is to be intimately related to the world, to themselves, and to at least one special other.  Intimacy is the most powerful need Scorpio has.  But intimacy requires vulnerability.  To really connect with another human being, you have to be willing to get hurt.

As a human being matures, she gains emotional skills and learns how to be vulnerable and open to life’s experiences, feeling them without being hurt by them and thus experiencing them more fully.  A truly mature Scorpio rising person has learned to be soft and emotionally available without feeling raw and unprotected, and to connect without behaving like either a victim or a victimizer.  With the development of emotionally intelligent, permeable boundaries, the crusty walls can come down without a loss of selfhood, making intimacy possible.

Intimacy is not the same as symbiosis, a state where one being has taken over and contains the other.  Intimacy is a state of closeness between two independent individuals, a state entered into by choice.  For Scorpio, life is empty without intimacy, but with intimacy, life is interesting, absorbing and compelling.  Intimacy provides a fit stage upon which a Scorpio rising person’s rich inner life, with all its color and feeling, may unfold.  To gain access to true intimacy, not symbiosis, you must learn to possess yourself and not others.

A self-possessed Scorpio rising individual is the most attractive person imaginable.  Any Scorpio riser who does the work of forming healthy (not reactive) boundaries, will become positively irresistible.  I guarantee it.

To learn more about your Scorpio Ascendant
and how to flourish with it,
Contact Jamie to schedule a reading.


Scorpio and Self-Sabotage

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Let me tell you a little story about the phoenix.  The phoenix was a mythical bird who built itself a fire, then allowed itself to be consumed by the flames until it died.  It then rose from its own ashes, shining and new.  Fans of Harry Potter will recognize the phoenix because Dumbledore had one named Fawkes.

To be Scorpio is to be a phoenix.  The Scorpio part of us is drawn to experiences which undo us, which destroy us.  This is out of a need to burn away everything that is not truly essential, everything that’s dross, everything that’s not us.  The key is to train this “death urge” (Freud named it “thanatos”) to destroy our negative personality traits and not our most tender heart.

But can you take conscious control of this ability?  Can you die on purpose?  Can you hold onto what is essential and be reborn?  Can you, with the courage of the phoenix, build your own funeral fire, climb into the flames and endure the pain of your own destruction—on purpose?  Can you let yourself be burned down to nothing, trusting that there is something in you so essential that it will continue beyond death?  The phoenix offers knowledge of that essence.

Tired of being drawn again and again into the same kind of bad relationship, dead-end job, addictive downward spiral?  Scorpio says, “if you’re falling, dive!”  Maybe you haven’t really felt all there is to feel there.  Maybe the pleasure still outweighs the pain.  Maybe you’re dampening the pain with transitory pleasure.  Do you need yet more pain before you will allow the thing to be burned away?  Then get it.  If you don’t reach for it on purpose, it will come to you when you least expect it.

Pretending you’re a victim of the process only slows it down.  For Scorpio, sometimes the only way out is through.  Embrace the pain, clasp it to your heart, feel every mote of it.  Let the sobs rack you at midnight.  Let it burn you until only what is essential is left.  Then see yourself, reborn, shiny, new, as if for the first time.  That’s the gift, hard-won, of Scorpio.

Scorpios, how about a special birthday present?

Your birthday is your own personal New Year’s Day. 
Having an astrology reading at this time can help you find your purpose

and enjoy your life to the fullest in the coming year.

Contact Jamie to schedule.


Effectiveness Can Be Fun–Jupiter Trines Saturn in Earth Signs

Tuesday, November 18th, 2008

There’s been a wonderful alignment of planets in 2008 that I want to tell you about because it’s almost over, and this way you can take advantage of it before it ends.

The alignment is a trine between Jupiter and Saturn.  Jupiter has been moving through the sign of Capricorn, generating a sense of joy in hard work and discipline.  Simultaneously, Saturn has been moving through Virgo, pushing us to get better organized and to handle details more efficiently.

This trine is a harmonious relationship between planets in practical, grounded earth signs, causing Jupiter and Saturn to easily agree and to enjoy working together.  Ordinarily, Jupiter scorns details, but while traveling through Capricorn, Jupiter is casting a fond eye upon Saturn’s meticulousness.  Saturn rewards those who take advantage of this time with a cornucopia of work-related goodies—such as promotions, new job titles, more clients, and a profound feeling of accomplishment.  Aligned this way, they are a formidable team, causing a tremendous feeling of reward in a job well done and bringing luck, self-confidence and opportunity to those willing to do that work.

How Does This Affect Me?
If you are building a business or working on a major project this year, this trine has probably been helping you to get organized.  If you’ve found yourself adopting new work practices and learning to work in ways that feed your ambition and if you’ve been feeling particularly inspired about long-term goals this year, this trine has probably had something to do with it.  If this alignment feels pertinent to your life, it’s because it affects your chart in some way, probably because some planet in your chart is being triggered by the movements of Jupiter or Saturn or both.

How The Conversation Goes:
Jupiter:  Hey Saturn, I’ve been discovering that work is an adventure.
Saturn:  You don’t say!
Jupiter:  Yeah, I do say.  This year I’ve been working hard and really enjoying it.  It’s amazing how good it feels to work hard, accomplish things of substance and enjoy the fruits of self-discipline.
Saturn:  I knew that already.  What I’ve been developing this year is a better relationship to details.  I’m finding that when I’m really well-organized I get a lot more done and it furthers my long-term goals in a wonderful way.  It’s been going so well that I’ve gained a tremendous sense of ease and flow, where everything is handled and moving along smoothly and I can actually relax.
Jupiter:  That’s really cool.  Relaxing is not something you do a lot of.
Saturn:  That’s true, but when you support me by taking pleasure in work, I feel a huge load off my shoulders.
Jupiter:  I’m finding so much meaning in work lately that I’m incredibly inspired.
Saturn:  That’s great.  You be the inspiration and I’ll be the perspiration.  Working together, we can accomplish absolutely anything.

Use This Transit by:
•  Growing into new ways of working.
•  Getting organized so that you can accomplish more with less effort.
•  Putting structures in place that will help you to continue being more and more effective.
•  Asking yourself:  how can I be of service?
•  Setting long-term goals that inspire you.

Timing Of This Transit:
The trine has been exact twice this year and is just now having its third and final peak.  The first peak was in January, the second was in September.  This transit peaks for the final time during November 15-25, 2008.

If you have been feeling the drives I’ve described here, then be aware that this period is almost over.  Take advantage of it through the end of November, because after Jupiter moves on into late Capricorn and ultimately into Aquarius, this will no longer be a major theme.  Other things will grab your attention.

So work hard and enjoy!  The structures you put in place now could support your business for years to come.  And remember that work can be fun and that enjoyable work is often work done well.